How you respond matters more than any technique. Gentle, evidence-based responses build confidence instead of fear.
Around one in twenty children stammers at some point, most often between the ages of two and five while language is developing rapidly. For many children it resolves naturally; for others it continues. Either way, the way the people around a child respond has a real effect on their confidence as a speaker.
What stammering can look like
- Repeating sounds or syllables: 'b-b-ball'.
- Stretching sounds: 'mmmmmummy'.
- Getting stuck, with no sound coming out for a moment.
- Extra effort: tension in the face, loss of eye contact, or avoiding certain words.
Helpful things to say and do
- Wait. Let your child finish their own sentence, even if it takes time.
- Keep natural eye contact and a calm face so your child sees you are listening to the message, not the bumps.
- Slow your own speech slightly and add pauses — this is more effective than telling your child to slow down.
- Respond to the content: 'You found the blue one!' rather than commenting on how it was said.
- Reduce pressure by asking fewer questions and making more comments.
- Protect a few minutes of unhurried, one-to-one talking time most days.
Phrases best avoided
- 'Slow down.'
- 'Take a deep breath.'
- 'Start again.'
- 'Just think about what you want to say.'
- Finishing the sentence for your child.
Talking about it openly
It is safe — and usually helpful — to name stammering calmly: 'That word was bumpy. Bumpy words are okay; I'm listening.' Openness removes shame, and shame is the part of stammering that does the most long-term harm.
When to seek advice
- The stammer has lasted longer than six to twelve months.
- Your child shows tension, frustration or begins avoiding speaking.
- There is a family history of stammering.
- You are worried — that alone is reason enough to ask.
Still wondering?
If anything here sounds familiar, the next step is simple. Complete our free Communication & Language Milestone Screener for age-based guidance in about five minutes, or book an assessment if your concerns remain. Acting early is never wasted — and you will never be told you worried too soon.
Next step
Complete the free Communication & Language Milestone Screener for age-based guidance, or book an assessment if your concerns remain.